Join Me in Week 4 of The Selfhood Experiment!

Who will you become if you commit to (at least) one true NO and one true YES each week?

Some of you are already joining in with my One True Yes / One True No challenge- a noble attempt to live more deliberately by saying one mega brave YES to something that lights you up (like making an elaborate cheese board for one) and one firm eff NO to something that drains you (like re-reading old messages from a frenemy and spiralling into a shame coma).

Anyway, I fell off the wagon. Or more accurately, I said yes to a number of things I didn’t want to do and then resented everyone involved, including myself, AND I lost track of all my projects. But it’s okay! Because I’m climbing back on with fresh resolve, and you can too. Hurray!

Okay, so this week, my One True No is to stop being afraid of sharing on social media out of fear that people who knew an old version of me will judge this new version of me. Which is basically like hiding who I am now to protect someone I no longer am/never really was. Aka insanity/cowardice. <3

And my One True Yes is sharing anyway, so I can find the people who actually see me now. Even if some ‘cool’ people might cringe mightily.

Feel free to join me. It’s weirdly satisfying. Like blocking your own inner saboteur. Or finally binning those jeans that haven’t fit since you realised that you are never actually going to give up sugar.

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📚 Chelsey Flood is the author of award-winning novels Infinite Sky and Nightwanderers, and a senior lecturer in creative writing at UWE. She is currently working on a book for Jessica Kingsley Publishers about the connection between undiagnosed neurodiversity and addiction + her first domestic noir. 📚