Ah, bless him. I have similar stories (though more chaotic music festivals and partying than outdoor pursuits). There are definite pros and cons to a laissez-faire approach. I tried to find a middle ground with my own kids but ended up making completely different mistakes, as I'm sure they'd agree. X
I'd like to read your stories! Yes my dad did his best and I loved him a lot but I plan to do things differently. As all new parents do! I have no doubt I will make lots of mistakes. Have already made plenty and he's not even 2 yet...
Did we have the same father? Totally relate- and as a result my 27 year old son was raised with clear boundaries, expectations, curfews, love, consequences, and trust. And he has turned out to be an awesome human- my fathers approach I have learned in my 60 years of living - was dangerous irresponsible and idiotic- I’m lucky to be alive- all under the guise of “you’ll figure it out” as a result my fathers approach was the “cool hippie” dad that my friends have lots of amusing memories about and as much as I have chuckled at his approach - the older I get - the more I realize how disconnected he was.
Im glad your son turned out to be awesome! And that's interesting that as you grow older you are more aware of how disconnected your father was. Thanks for reading and letting me know this landed for you ☺️
Ah, bless him. I have similar stories (though more chaotic music festivals and partying than outdoor pursuits). There are definite pros and cons to a laissez-faire approach. I tried to find a middle ground with my own kids but ended up making completely different mistakes, as I'm sure they'd agree. X
I'd like to read your stories! Yes my dad did his best and I loved him a lot but I plan to do things differently. As all new parents do! I have no doubt I will make lots of mistakes. Have already made plenty and he's not even 2 yet...
Did we have the same father? Totally relate- and as a result my 27 year old son was raised with clear boundaries, expectations, curfews, love, consequences, and trust. And he has turned out to be an awesome human- my fathers approach I have learned in my 60 years of living - was dangerous irresponsible and idiotic- I’m lucky to be alive- all under the guise of “you’ll figure it out” as a result my fathers approach was the “cool hippie” dad that my friends have lots of amusing memories about and as much as I have chuckled at his approach - the older I get - the more I realize how disconnected he was.
Great piece! Keep writing!
Im glad your son turned out to be awesome! And that's interesting that as you grow older you are more aware of how disconnected your father was. Thanks for reading and letting me know this landed for you ☺️