“....fear can only tell you what you stand to lose. It has no capacity to tell you what you might gain”
That is such a tremendous insight imho, Chelsey, thank you so much for that.
It is a gift to those looking to make a change & one that I am going to hold within whilst I do my work with people looking to make that change. I am an addiction therapist based in Brighton, Sussex.
Once again, thank you for that gift, I am going to share it & share it & I’ll never lose it & hopefully it will help many others to make that change...? As the man, or woman, in the mirror would say..? And now, perhaps, they can aided by this inspirational (imho) insight.......thank you once again Chelsey🙏🤗👍👌
This is inspiring, thank you, Chelsey. I feel like I need to do more work in terms of finding sober friends. I find myself avoiding the kinds of gatherings I used to love because I worry they will be quite hard without drinking. I have met a few people who don't drink, but I'm finding a difference between people who don't drink because they just don't drink, and people who don't drink because they have stopped drinking. I don't have anybody in the physical world to talk about being sober with (which is why I appreciate your blog and this group of folks who engage with it so much!). Question - was it hard to find an AA group that you connected with? I just went to one meeting, but i felt quite distant from the people there. I didn't feel like it was my place. I know people say to just keep trying different meetings, but I wonder how many people in AA have had the kind of "high bottom" experience that we've had. It's that kind of imposter feeling of "Am I enough of an alcoholic for AA?"
I follow a number of ex addicts on social media and heard the idiom, "If you want a friend be a friend." through one of them. I think this resonates with your piece on friendships and sobriety. Thanks for posting, I enjoyed reading it.
Ooh relate I felt like that in AA for a bit and some meetings I wasn't so keen on. I was a ' functional drinking ' ' didn't lose my job, end up in prison or hospital and didn't drink everyday or mornings ( well unless I hadn't been to bed. No park bench girl for me... Well yet anyway...
Women's meetings I've found a nice place... Many online. Maybe in your area? And many many nice and supportive mixed meetings so yep going to a few is good idea 💡
Stick with the women is a good moto esp in beginning many women at mixed meetings.
I'm Emma I'm an alcoholic ( but my head used to tell me different..
“....fear can only tell you what you stand to lose. It has no capacity to tell you what you might gain”
That is such a tremendous insight imho, Chelsey, thank you so much for that.
It is a gift to those looking to make a change & one that I am going to hold within whilst I do my work with people looking to make that change. I am an addiction therapist based in Brighton, Sussex.
Once again, thank you for that gift, I am going to share it & share it & I’ll never lose it & hopefully it will help many others to make that change...? As the man, or woman, in the mirror would say..? And now, perhaps, they can aided by this inspirational (imho) insight.......thank you once again Chelsey🙏🤗👍👌
This is inspiring, thank you, Chelsey. I feel like I need to do more work in terms of finding sober friends. I find myself avoiding the kinds of gatherings I used to love because I worry they will be quite hard without drinking. I have met a few people who don't drink, but I'm finding a difference between people who don't drink because they just don't drink, and people who don't drink because they have stopped drinking. I don't have anybody in the physical world to talk about being sober with (which is why I appreciate your blog and this group of folks who engage with it so much!). Question - was it hard to find an AA group that you connected with? I just went to one meeting, but i felt quite distant from the people there. I didn't feel like it was my place. I know people say to just keep trying different meetings, but I wonder how many people in AA have had the kind of "high bottom" experience that we've had. It's that kind of imposter feeling of "Am I enough of an alcoholic for AA?"
Such a beautiful post! I love hearing about how your relationships change, and that it's all part of the process.
I follow a number of ex addicts on social media and heard the idiom, "If you want a friend be a friend." through one of them. I think this resonates with your piece on friendships and sobriety. Thanks for posting, I enjoyed reading it.
Ooh relate I felt like that in AA for a bit and some meetings I wasn't so keen on. I was a ' functional drinking ' ' didn't lose my job, end up in prison or hospital and didn't drink everyday or mornings ( well unless I hadn't been to bed. No park bench girl for me... Well yet anyway...
Women's meetings I've found a nice place... Many online. Maybe in your area? And many many nice and supportive mixed meetings so yep going to a few is good idea 💡
Stick with the women is a good moto esp in beginning many women at mixed meetings.
I'm Emma I'm an alcoholic ( but my head used to tell me different..
Chelsey, thank you for this today ❤️