have 2 small children, I’m neurodivergent & over 50, it’s a privilege to be their stand in parent but can get lonely and challenging, I love your writings, brightens my day 🧘🏼♀️
At 42, and having no children, I have always had the desire to become a father.
I don't feel any different now than I did when I was 17 in myself, so even at close to middle age, I'd hope to be a fit and active kind of dad. And if I'm like my own father was, I'll be happy with that.
Whether the child is happy with the bombardment of motor sports and being questioned if AB or C is a wise move is another matter!
That's a lovely thing to say about your father, and I hope you get to become one. If not, there are lots of ways to use that empathy and compassion! The world needs it for sure. I can imagine you'd be a lovely dad. 💓
I had my first at 24 and 3rd at 32. There were def challenges at 24, being young and poor. But advantages too. I was in great shape and had tons of energy. I can relate to the part about other ppl your age not being at your stage. At 50 I’m an empty nester and most of my friends who are also empty nesters are older.
I think my friends who started later generally are calmer and have done more internal work. A huge benefit. There’s no perfect time though and all the chatter telling us when to do things is best ignored. Congrats to you and your little one. Such a sweet time. Enjoy it and get as much rest as you can. 🧡
That sounds like good ages! If I could have a redo I might try that. Of course there are no redos only the work of accepting what is... And trying to move forward more in tune with what might be best!
Yes I'm defo calmer and understand myself better. Also my ambition has slightly died down cos of achieving certain career goals that I was fixated on in my 20s... But is that worth extra time with my boy or time with his kids should he have them? Again I have to return to acceptance...
It is such a sweet time tho. I'm loving it all. Even the night feeds! xx
Beautifully written Chelsey 💝
have 2 small children, I’m neurodivergent & over 50, it’s a privilege to be their stand in parent but can get lonely and challenging, I love your writings, brightens my day 🧘🏼♀️
At 42, and having no children, I have always had the desire to become a father.
I don't feel any different now than I did when I was 17 in myself, so even at close to middle age, I'd hope to be a fit and active kind of dad. And if I'm like my own father was, I'll be happy with that.
Whether the child is happy with the bombardment of motor sports and being questioned if AB or C is a wise move is another matter!
That's a lovely thing to say about your father, and I hope you get to become one. If not, there are lots of ways to use that empathy and compassion! The world needs it for sure. I can imagine you'd be a lovely dad. 💓
You always had those soft feelings except they were never for humans... only cats! 😂😂😂
I had my first at 24 and 3rd at 32. There were def challenges at 24, being young and poor. But advantages too. I was in great shape and had tons of energy. I can relate to the part about other ppl your age not being at your stage. At 50 I’m an empty nester and most of my friends who are also empty nesters are older.
I think my friends who started later generally are calmer and have done more internal work. A huge benefit. There’s no perfect time though and all the chatter telling us when to do things is best ignored. Congrats to you and your little one. Such a sweet time. Enjoy it and get as much rest as you can. 🧡
That sounds like good ages! If I could have a redo I might try that. Of course there are no redos only the work of accepting what is... And trying to move forward more in tune with what might be best!
Yes I'm defo calmer and understand myself better. Also my ambition has slightly died down cos of achieving certain career goals that I was fixated on in my 20s... But is that worth extra time with my boy or time with his kids should he have them? Again I have to return to acceptance...
It is such a sweet time tho. I'm loving it all. Even the night feeds! xx